At the beginning of a romantic relationship, lovers think that they will have everything in a special way, not like the others. Time passes, the first problems begin.
Even the smallest quarrel can lead to separation, especially if one of the partners is explosive. It is generally accepted that men experience separation more easily. Women are struggling to regain the love of a partner.
To prevent this from happening, you need to work on relationships. Women's magazines are full of tips on the topic: "How to keep a man?". Unfortunately, all these recommendations do not work. The fact is that they are written by women, they have a completely different point of view, significantly different from men's.
If you ask any man what a woman needs to do so that her lover does not leave her, the answer will surprise you. After all, they will provide you with a list of what you do not need to do.
10. Do not criticize
Every man in his life listens as much criticism as women have never dreamed of. For some reason, many wives consider it their duty to tell her husband how to live properly. They constantly criticize: "You work a lot, spend little time at home, do not pay attention, do not play with children ..."
A man gets tired of criticism, he wants to run away from his beloved without looking back. Here is an adult who knows what he needs to do and when. Less criticism, more compliments and nice words.
Motivate your man with various female tricks. Praise him, he will turn mountains for you. You will continue in the same spirit, scold, criticize, and prepare for the fact that you will soon be left alone.
9. Do not cry
Want to keep a man, never cry with him. Most women will not like this advice. Still, how can one lose such an effective “weapon”? Men hate tears. When women cry, they have one desire - to flee to the ends of the world, so as not to see it.
They simply do not know how to behave in such a situation, what to do. If consolation does not help, the man can only ignore the crying woman. Then until the end of his life they will accuse him of indifference.
Do not make scandals, do not show your tears, take pity on your man. Otherwise, he will find you a replacement that will not manipulate him with tears.
8. Do not whine
We are talking about the endless complaints and moralizing that women love so much. At first glance, this is a very effective method to achieve everything you want. If it’s a couple of weeks that “my friend has a new fur coat, and I’ve been in a jacket for three years,” the man will give up and buy the coveted new thing. A couple more weeks of nagging, and you buy tickets to Italy.
Do not use this method. Perhaps at first he will work, but then your man will run away. Use other methods and forget about nagging, unless of course you want to maintain a relationship.
7. Do not put a man on a diet
Men love slender women, but most of all they love food. If you want to lose weight, then do it discreetly. Most guys need a girlfriend who agrees to go to the pizzeria during a night walk. A man will be offended if he buys ice cream or sweets for his beloved, and she says that she is on a diet.
Allow yourself small weaknesses. You do not need to demonstrate to your beloved how joyful you are to eat salad leaves and drink them with kefir. He will feel in danger.
Moreover, never put a man on a diet out of solidarity. He will run away from you at the first opportunity to one that may not be distinguished by perfect forms, but it will cook deliciously.
6. Do not make serious talk about relationships
When a woman says to a man: “We need to seriously talk,” he wants to fall through the ground. Indeed, a frightening start to the conversation. Men do not understand why there is talk of a relationship.
You can talk endlessly, discuss who is to blame, but that will not change anything. He has his own point of view, his own ideas about ideal relationships. If they do not coincide with yours, there is only one way out - let him go and not suffer.
If you want to talk, start voicing your complaints right away, and don’t forget to suggest various solutions to the problem. So, at least, the man does not have time to be afraid. To be honest, most talk about relationships is pointless. You will not be able to remake your partner, so is it worth trying.
5. Do not forbid a man to have fun
Don’t worry, this is not about parties until the morning and drinking with friends on weekends, although occasionally this can also be allowed. Surely, your beloved loves football or fishing, is fond of computer games or watching action movies.
Do not criticize his hobbies and do not forbid him to rest. Of course, if his hobbies negatively affect your relationship, if he devotes all his free time to them, it’s worth talking.
And if he wants to spend Friday evening watching football, do not make a hurt face and do not say that you wanted to watch a love melodrama together. Let the man relax, he will rest and agree to any of your conditions.
4. Do not control
Constant calls with questions: "Where are you?" and hundreds of SMS will annoy anyone. Do not try to control your man. This is an adult who is responsible for his actions, he is free to do what he wants.
If you think that in this way, you can hold it, you are deeply mistaken. If a man wants to go "to the left," he will do it. Control will not help.
Do not read his SMS or correspondence on social networks. You can only decide on this if there is other evidence that your husband is lying to you. But in this case, you are unlikely to want to maintain a relationship.
3. Do not deny proximity
No one asks you to jump to bed at the first request of a man. If you feel bad or very tired, he will understand everything. But failures should not be systematic.
Most people still believe that men need sex more than women. If you want to save your marriage, forget about this nonsense. Women need sex no less. Only they all depend on their mood.
If your husband is in no hurry to arrange romantic dates, tell him directly about his desires. Be sure he will not refuse, and your sex life will become much richer and brighter.
2. Do not give him nicknames
Many couples prefer to use “pussy” and “bunny” instead of names. If this is your case, make sure that the man does not mind. If a loved one agrees to be the “sun” or “pusey,” then you can call him that, but only at home.
No nicknames in public, especially in the presence of work colleagues or subordinates. Otherwise, your husband will be the object of ridicule.
To be honest, many men prefer to be called by name even at home. They agree to nicknames to please their beloved. Show your man that you respect him, call him by name.
1. Show love
Everyone needs attention signs, in love. Even if it seems to you that your husband is a serious man whom tenderness does not tolerate, most likely you are mistaken. Give him your love, he will carry you in his arms.
Do not arrange jealousy scenes, do not run away to mom at the first opportunity. Scandals, quarrels and violent reconciliation - this is not what your man needs. Provide him with a "safe haven." He will gladly return to the house where they love and wait.