A person is used to thinking that the bad events occurring in his life are dictated by fate. If you find something from this list, you will understand what needs to be changed in your life.
10. Throwing a hobby
Do you know situations from life when you have burnout? On the one hand, you want to continue doing what you love, and on the other, you are tired and explain to yourself that your hobby is a waste of time. And then you find a new hobby and everything repeats. But if you took up this business, then you needed it. Do not rush to abandon it, but just relax. If something doesn’t work out for you - return to this matter later, maybe after a rest and reducing the load, it will become easier for you to master your hobby.
9. Wrong listen to the inner voice
Conceived, what can be done right now - must be carried out in life, because after a while you definitely will not do it. For example, it’s a beautiful winter day outside, and you think about how great it would be to learn to ski - find the ski slopes, call and find out how to get to the place - act! Most often, our inaction is dictated by fear and the question: “What will people think about me?” The inner voice undermines our self-esteem and leads us to inaction, while it is not based on logical arguments, but on negative thoughts.
8. Mute the alarm
If an important event is approaching in your life, it is quite normal to worry. But sometimes the anxiety is so strong that it affects the mental and physical state: someone starts to sweat a lot and not find a place; someone drowning out an alarm with books, music, or talking on the phone feels that they are even more worried. It is important to deal with anxiety correctly, and not waste your strength in vain. A time-tested remedy very well helps with anxiety attacks - sports: running, charging.
7. Start procrastination
Everyone in his life is faced with procrastination at one time or another, and everyone has his own way of dealing with it. It is not scary if your behavior does not incur significant losses (although everything is relative), but if procrastination costs you health, money and a career, this is a sure sign of self-destruction. Each has its own reasons for the “neglect” of important matters, but the most important is the reluctance to do something. Try to negotiate with yourself - promise that as soon as you finish all the important things, be sure to somehow encourage yourself.
6. Do the wrong things
Pay attention to what your time is spent on and whether your activity is paying off. If you found excellent lessons in learning the English language, you managed to tell everyone about it, got a thick notebook, which, as it was empty, still remains, in general thoroughly prepared, but did not start studying it - do you really need it? Perhaps you are just creating the appearance of an activity while doing the wrong thing. The reason may lie in fear - you are afraid to do what you really want, responsibility, to fail. Taking something in your time, it may seem to you that you did a great job, but it is not.
5. Deny yourself small pleasures
Most people walking in the store past seductive goods, be it expensive candies, any clothes or decor items, do not even think about buying something they like. Of course, you should not buy everything in a row, but why not at least occasionally treat yourself to expensive trifles without thinking about the end of the month and almost no money left? You can at least sometimes buy yourself an expensive aromatic coffee and your favorite cake.
4. You think that in solitude you do not have the right to have fun
Unfortunately, not everyone has relatives and friends, but this is not a reason to isolate themselves from society, including from themselves. When we interact with people, help others and do good - we psychologically become much better. This is just not so long ago that German scientists noticed. A person who isolates himself from society begins to self-destruct. Nevertheless, there are those who prefer solitude, such people can be advised of the following: try something new, enjoy the little things, move and do not sit still. It is possible that when you go out into the nature or to the theater, one day you will meet a friend or even love.
3. Constantly jealous of a partner
Excessive jealousy and suspicion will definitely not make your relationship with a partner stronger (or another - it does not matter). Suspecting your soul mate in treason, scouring his pockets and checking his phone - you only push the relationship to the gap. If you are painfully jealous, this is not a reason to pester your soul mate with questions and to monitor him all the time. It is necessary to work with mental wounds, and not let everything go by its own accord. You may need to have a frank conversation with your loved one, but this is better than being jealous all the time.
2. Engage in a skirmish with the authorities
As soon as you notice aggression in yourself (usually it is not aimed specifically at someone, but whoever is near you will receive a portion of your discontent), try to calm yourself, otherwise she will want to find a way out. And it will be very good if there is a close person nearby who is able to understand your condition, but if the boss comes to hand - this is not good ... Starting to argue with people above you (be it a teacher or a boss), you need to understand that you are unlikely to be able to prove anything. Higher people can complicate your life, and fighting them is the right way to nowhere.
1. Consider that your virtues are innate
Parents told many of us in childhood that modesty is a positive character trait, but if you go too far with it, it can become a real pest. Already at school, some children are embarrassed to stand out, raise their hands in the classroom, answer questions, subconsciously believing that their virtues are innate, not acquired. And other children, on the contrary, feel awkward when praised and encouraged - they think just the opposite. The conclusion from this is this: to be ashamed of one’s industriousness and mind, accumulated knowledge is only a minus.