Over time, the relationship in the pair becomes completely different, not the same as before. This will help you in this list of things that every couple should stop doing.
10. Talk more than listen
If you used to listen to your partner with your mouth open, now you don’t let him say a word. Most people care only about their own point of view, they seek to express it as soon as possible. If the chosen one does not agree with you, let him speak out, do not break off at a glance. In general, in normal relations, people communicate on equal terms. They are ready to listen to each other, to find a compromise in solving important issues. And this is impossible if you hear only yourself. Learn to listen again, so misunderstanding will leave your relationship, you can avoid conflicts and disputes.
9. Stint on compliments
Compliments every day, too, is becoming less. Previously, you enjoyed praising your partner, supporting him in difficult situations. Now you will not say good words to each other. Compliments are an important part of a relationship. A woman without compliments feels inferior, she begins to doubt her attractiveness. A man also needs them, he needs to know that he is the strongest, the most courageous. Do not be afraid to praise your soulmate. Pleasant words give confidence, encourage action.
8. Constantly criticize
In no case should you criticize your soulmate. Yes, of course, you can say that you are not comfortable. But this should not happen on an ongoing basis. Especially often women behave this way. They continually express their complaints to the partner. They do not like that the man has a low salary, a crooked nose, and he again did not take out the garbage. Every day there is a new reason for criticism. Look at yourself from the side. You would hardly have liked it if your man had behaved the same way. You do not want to become a woman saw? Well, if you are a man and also constantly criticize your woman, then maybe this is just not your person. One way or another, learn to talk about flaws to your partner as tactfully as possible.
7. Inattentive listening
You are not at all listening to what your partner is telling you. You hover in the clouds, and then ask again several times. Have you ever thought that such behavior affects a relationship very badly? The partner feels offended, he talked about his problems or achievements for half an hour, and you did not even bother to listen to him. If your beloved is talking to you about something, it means that something is important to him. Perhaps he is waiting for support or advice, and you do not even know what was discussed. Next time concentrate on the conversation, eliminate all distractions. If you listen carefully, ask questions, comment, the partner will feel that his affairs are of great importance to you. Your relationship will become even stronger.
6. Pay insufficient attention to your partner
The modern rhythm of life leaves little time for communication. People work late, do household chores. If there are children, the situation is even worse. There is no time at all for each other. Although it is, people simply do not notice that they devote all their free time to watching TV, hanging up on social networks. Reply to the comments of girlfriends in the social network is much more important than spending time with your loved one. In fact, the beloved also does not get bored, he has been playing “tanks” for three hours now. So pass the evenings of most couples. Try to find time for each other. Talk, walk, watch movies, discuss them. If you see that your soul mate is bored, take her time. Otherwise, she will find herself an occupation, and you will move further away from each other.
5. Trying to change each other
Everyone makes this mistake, without exception. Trying to change a partner means ruining a relationship with your own hands. You fell in love with this man, why did you suddenly decide that you need another? Your beloved is not the source material from which you can create anything. If something does not suit you, direct your efforts to perfect yourself. Perhaps your partner will want to change with you. If you do not give up hopes to change the partner, then just imagine that he is also dissatisfied with you. Maybe he wants you to lose 5 pounds or get a better paid job. Then maybe you will think less about how to change it.
4. Treat relations as something secondary
When a relationship just starts, a man and a woman put them first. They think about each other, strive to please, spend together as much time as possible. Gradually, these desires fade away. Work, children, friends come to the fore. If you feel like this about your relationship, you may soon find a replacement. You choose a partner for life, at least you thought so at the beginning of the relationship. Children will grow up and leave you, you will change your work more than once. But not everyone succeeds in finding love, and even mutual. If you are lucky once, it does not mean that you are lucky the second. Take care of your relationships, those that you have.
3. Let the wind down
Relationships are impossible without trust. Never give a partner promises that you cannot fulfill. Even if the situation seems trivial to you, your partner does not think so. You cheated once, then you are capable of cheating, it is not known what to expect from you. Adequately evaluate your capabilities and do not throw words into the wind, so that next time you do not have to blush and justify yourself before your soulmate.
2. Find fault with each other
When people live together for a long time, they begin to treat each other as children. The process of education begins. No need to educate your soulmate. If she didn’t do what you expected, do not torture her with nit-picking. Constant criticism without cause can destroy the strongest alliance. Keep yourself in control, remember before you an adult who himself knows what to do. Otherwise, your partner will ever get tired of it. It is not known how long your relationship will last.
1. Compete with your loved one
Such a habit over time appears in many couples. Someone competes with professional achievements, someone earned money, someone with the number of checked homework or washed dishes. When people love each other, they are ready to give, delight their soul mate. Concentrate on what you can do for your loved one, do not blame him for what you do more for your family. Then your chosen one will answer you the same. Remember that good relationships in a pair do not appear out of nowhere, you need to work on them.